Onward and Upward .. I Pray

Here’s the plan:  short and sweet, lotsa-links, inspiration, and to the point! Lets see how well I do. Just don’t grade me on this paper ok!? After our summer of personal series of unfortunate events, I have promised the next post would be of enlightenment to the lessons I have take from those **** experiences

The first thing is, I have learned that I can do stuff. I can do DIYs! I don’t just pin them, share them, or tweet them anymore! I have actively taken part in my own role of DIY’er. So much so I started at the top, with an IKEA Hack!

“What’s an IKEA hack J9?!” You ask. 

“A Closet On a Bookcase?” first step was to turn closet on it’s side –that’s when they lost me!


Well, the way I see it is:  Think about IKEA first. In and of itself the thought just scares me. Then, remember the last item-to-build you purchased there. Recall the three ‘life-lines’ you were given upon starting the put-together-project, going into it alone, and sit in that fear for a moment….Then, when you’ve returned from rocking like a baby in the corner over there, and removed your thumb from your mouth, read on. The instructions, piece count, directions, countless trips back to the store for missing items, estimated time of six hours work in reality it’s six days (for me), and you’ve got The first word understood:  “IKEA” right

An IKEA Hack above is a mixture of that horror, picture it:  and Dr. Suess on some elicit street drug, shaking his courvoisier (cognac) on the rox in hand, while slapping my fried brain around with his fatal cocktail, scorching me with an evil laughter … it all causes my poor head to ache…However, I just fell into my ‘hack’ by accident. (I don’t self-created suffering anymore)


Here are some photos from the beginning of my DIY career. (Promise not to laugh too hard) From Instagram

My Wanna Be IKEA Hack

my wanna be Ikea Hack from Shoe Rack to Towel Rack ;D


 Excuse the unprofessional photography but, all I gots an iPhone 4S for now…laugh all you like, I am super proud of myself! 

IKEA Hack 2

IKEA shoe rack to my small space DIY towel rack


super proud! excuse the mess behind the photo. we were in renovations all summer and it’s a rental. 

IKEA Hack 3

last but not least, photo of perfectly fit potty side shot ;P


Next image is linked to my Pinterest account, only because I do not have time to further resaerch all the sources. You all know I send the credit to creator. 

dubbed Neon Lumberjack Wood on FLICKR

via FLICKR


This is the way were headed with the shoe rack turned towel rack hack for our bathroom. I am not sure exactly how or where, but I will be using this type of coloring pattern.

The good news continues from the **** summer, to the white walled blank canvas we now have to work with for our interior decor. TEEN and I are so used to moving our entire lives (unfortunately for whatever reasons..), that we barely sleep in the same bed every night. Around the one year & a half mark there’s an ‘itch’ I get inside, that causes me to look at moving. NO MORE. Since LO, thats against the rules”–like I always say to her, lol. 

The remaining images are designs by others I have sourced on Etsy and Pinterest, are the inspirational creators of the new DIY sensation I feel in my bones as of late. Colour seems to be the main focus. Follow each of the photo links to their (Pinterest) pins. 

 

Geometric Art oEtsy

Geometric Art on Etsy


Unfortunately,I couldn’t find my link to this one. However, its listed in my favorites on my Etsy Profile (link above & sidebar to follow me there)! I thought I would try this one as a DIY project actually, with some fantastic washi tape from Pretty Tape. A fav from Dallas, TX on line. The following photos are the same idea (DIY). Now that Im an expert, you’ll have to come back to check up on our progress :D

Coloured Tree Slices

Coloured Tree Slices on Etsy


We have some of these from our neighbourhood Discovery Walk last winter! 

More Tree Slices on Etsy

More Tree Slice Art via Etsy


More Tree Slice Art via Etsy fav’s of mine

Here’s another idea I have already played with…

 

DIY Washi Tape photo frames

DIY Washi Tape photo frames


However, I prefer ours to look not so perfect–like these:

 

DIY Washi tape photo frame ideas

DIY Washi tape photo frame ideas


Follow link to source for better image sizes.

This last one I prefer above all. I prefer to add little treasuries and pieces we’ve collected on our travels, to the frames. A paper flower TEEN created here (like yellow below), a photo LO painted or ripped and glued there–adding it to the personality of our DIY Washi Tape Photo Framed Wall art. 

DIY Washi Tape photo frames

DIY Washi Tape photo frames


 

I soo look forward to connecting again soon. Leave behind some inspirational DIY projects you’re involved in or excited about. I am always on a hunt for encouragement and simple step by step tutorials LOL!! OK, Much to be done around here. At least its not cleaning up *** anymore!

Blessings and Wonderous Weekends to you All,

JayNine xox 

IMAGE NOTE *** Each of those pins when clicked will forward you to a new window revealing to you it’s credible source. I give all designers their credit and have no intention of offending or infringing on copyright laws by sharing these photos in any way. I do not endorse nor oppose the use of the products connected to any source. I simply share for enjoyment purposes only.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 










Info and Updates

Every blogger around this time of Summer and ‘relaxation’ (for some lol!), are finding the time for blogging slim to none. This is an update of our Orange Rhino Challenge, providing links for parent support, social media outlets, and other Mommy bloggers from around the web taking the challenge.

For those of you that don’t know, I have accepted the Orange Rhino Challenge; to better my parenting without ‘yelling & screaming’ for 365 days. I am at DAY 2 (again), on my 3rd attempt! We’re still ‘under construction’.

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The results? INSTANT turn around! Remember, its a process of breaking ties of my past, and past parenting. Its not that simple. Its a part of me, a part of my ‘make up’ that needs demolition and the Orange Rhino is truly just scratching the surface. Sadly, this past weekend, I turned to an instant 10 steps back…Blame the weather, my patience, not keeping in touch, too many doctors appointments–it doesn’t matter.
I am admittedly back at DAY 2, and I will not give up on myself, because it is a goal for my children (and self).

The Reevaluation? My going about this. I have chose to turn it down a notch, to a 30 DAY challenge, to start. The obvious long term goal, is to collect 12 months 365 days, and to have the challenge last forever. period. Personally, these types of large change, work better in smaller increments (which is allowed through taking the challenge guidelines/rules;)!

For Me, my successes have been well achieved through applying my tools, the following way:
* ‘One Day at a Time’ *
* One hour at a time *
* ‘One situation at a Time’ *
Breaking the days down, as each separate situation as it
rears its ugly head, is much easier a pill to swallow
.

I have learned so much so far, about myself, my parenting, and about my wonderful children.

I ‘HATE’ Humidity:
I don’t ‘hate’ anything, anyone, nor do we even use the word! The humidity is the contributing factor! It adversely affects the children and I. We do not work well, under these temperatures! Enjoy your A/C parents because we do not have that luxury, yet lol! Changes our mood, my patience, and all of our physical comforts. YUK!
* I am reminded of this lesson through the heat: I must stay focused on being a better parent, no matter what the weather (that’s silly and embarrassing to hear aloud!), or circumstance, right? This is not something I didn’t know but, I (obviously) needed the reminder. Everyone is uncomfortable with this heat. I must remember, to ‘be in thought of the others’ as well. Another skill I work on daily, regardless of challenges.

Children crave Discipline:
And, so do I! We all know this. We all have read article that prove, dealing with any child’s ‘mis-behaviour’ or difficult behaviours, can easily be curved with well disciplined parenting. This, for me is a struggle right now. I have a hard time in a challenging moment, to deliver the correct, age, and learning ability, consequences, for these unwanted behaviours.

Mainly, this comes from having a 4 year old with developmental learning disabilities (still undiagnosed as to what specifically), leaving me in a place of questioning my consequences constantly. So, I Read, read more, search for more information, on line, books, and I await the proper resources! My daughter just had her first diagnosis Assessment–only to see if she qualifies for assistance provided by our region’s government. This will then provide her and I with: funding, occupational therapist for her at daycare/school, a resource therapist POR MOI; and a slue of other services, to better lead LOs development correctly.
I am ecstatic about this news from professionals! FINALLY! Everyone had said to me, ‘it’s normal‘ ‘she’ll grow out of it‘ . As her only parent & mother, I have always known, something just wasn’t quite right.

For now, my consequence deliveries (sometimes just my parenting in general) are hit and miss. Sometimes I laugh at myself wondering what I was thinking! Which brings me to the BEST PART OF PARENTING:

LAUGHING:
An old friend used to advise me on the hard days, “Look at a situation like you’re watching it through the TV…’Friends’ or ‘Rosanne’… from the couch. See a sit-com! It will help you relax, let go, and maybe even laugh! Not allow you to take your life so seriously” I admit, after never giving this idea a fair shot: IT WORKS! In most situations, I have chosen to laugh as of late! Even just smile when it hurts, resisting the temptation to yell. Results? I found the immediate results of pretending I was ok and this was somehow ‘funny’–almost instantly lightens my heart.

With my own personal anxiety difficulties, I find my heart feels heavy, burdened some moments, almost sad at times; before, during and after encountering ‘challenging’ parenting situations. The Sit-Com Idea is becoming a well-used one! The look on my youngsters face seems to shift from anger, to confusion, her eyes looking back at mine, (I am ALWAYS at eye level when interacting), and her ears almost perk up like a puppy to listen to the words I have to say…and, we’re smiling again.

The Orange Rhino Challenge has changed my parenting styles forever.
It has touched my life, heart, and the same of my children
.

Please, share all of your own tips, advice, experience, inspiration, ideas, and parenting skills, here.
Please, go visit and encourage the other “WordPress Family” members, as embark on the same journey. I know they’ll appreciate it. (lists below:)
We all LOVE that you all are keeping us accountable and inspired to continue, on our personal journeys.

MORE links of some other new Challenge Accepting Moms, I found from the web:
— the ‘Family Organic‘ pop over to encourage the 5 days fresh challenge accepter
on Blogger!
‘Table of Seven’ a WP Blog I just found here
— ‘Forgetful Momma‘ (sounds just like me already) on Blogger, I believe
— ‘Becoming Boston on Blogger however, I cannot
find a post date

WordPress Families taking the challenge are:
Fascinations of a Vanilla Housewifethe (amazing 21 days free)
— (fun) Adventures of Miss Fanny P
‘Empowering Lives 4 Him’ invites us to join her, WordPress!
**feel free to leave your blog link below in comments for support. I will add it to this post.**

JayNine xo
PS–Read the post before this one for photos from our last weeks, without blogging!

A NOTE:to those ‘taking the challenge’.
*Remember* utilize the resources the site provides. Use the support of Orange Rhino’s Facebook Page or ‘Support Group‘! An inspiring place to remind us DON’T QUIT we have much support. I found the challenge creators Tube Channel! We all have to ‘Subscribe‘ IDEA: we should all perform Guest Videos right?

365 Parenting Challenge

That’s it! I’m DONE! I have put this off for far too long and the guilt and shame is relentless!
No More!

After reading this post by the Vanilla Housewife)(follow her!) I made a decision. A decision to take action, action against myself!
3 days ago, I took an oath to no longer ‘scream’ and/or ‘yell’ at my children. I am on day 4/365 to scream-free parenting; in accordance to the guidelines from the Orange Rhino Challenge.(about), with much to report…Unexpected results have happened already.

Without needing to go into an entire background check of reasons why I have scrreamed and yelled as a parent in the last 14 years, I would like to remain focused on the present moment and future successes. I am using this post to admit my faults, flaws, and absolute inability to control any situation around me, without yelling. I am focused on looking forward. I am determined to create change. I admit my misuse of parental power or that which I believed I had attained by yelling. (imagine?) This, my friends, make NO mistake is an extremely difficult flaw to admit; to you, to anyone. Anyone that has participated in something like this will say the same thing! I commend and thank those that came before me to share their inspiration. Remember, I am essentially admitting defeat in myself, in my parenting skills, admitting the cause of pain to my own precious child. (as I sit in tears).

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But, on with the Challenge(details here)!!!
I taking up my sword** rising it against my foe, and ridding my-SELF of: the great angry woman/mother/hurt child that lies inside me and cheats me from having any real happy new experiences with my children today. With BOTH of my children. Teen and Four year old.
(**sword: reference to the assistance here from the Rhino Site suggestions, but also, the
Word Of God that is my core strength).

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Today, I am (RE-) taking this Oath for all to witness, in writing here and will be publicly held accountable and report to you all, the challenges and changes to come. Orange Rhino site to join me. Take a look around to read the comments, replies, reports, and support of each other, on each. Or read 12 Steps to Stop Yelling at Your Children.

I have made it (almost to the end of day) 4 days, without screaming ‘at’ my 4 year old or teen!
I have made so much progress with my LO that I feel a sense of trust re-building, and rejoicing in my heart, that I can actually feel, glowing, strongly. The binds of our relationship are not heavy, weak, and based on fear. Their uplifting, strong, and based on love. Don’t get me wrong, LO knows when a change is in the air and produced the most difficult and defiant situations this weekend before me–in hopes I’d scream. Oh no folks, she does do some of it intentionally, to see how far til I scream. This weekend, lol, shes tried so much that I looked at her and said, in a calm voice(at her level)with a smile on my face (all I could do not to break my toe in drywall) “I know you want mommy to scream yes? Well, it’s not going to happen so stop trying” LOL
We had one incident maybe I will link a post to that here at some point.
Otherwise

So far, SOO good...
I will be posting updates as the days pass and placing the Links to them under a new Page I will start today (adding links regularly), titled: “365 Parenting” Each post numbered as such.
Today will be filed under “4/365”
Hopefully I will move forward,
and not back in number.
Leave with me your tips, advice, helpful links, or some kicks in the butt to keep up the work I must complete as it has been a fruitful weekend since beginning this Challenge.

In Sincerest Honesty,

JayNine xo
*I will be adding a most helpful “Page” full of links for help for any others in need of support; or even children’s activities, for your parenting resources. You can leave help tips in the “Reply” space, there too.

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