Our **** Summer

These are the stories of our summer experience.  Don’t expect glorious photos of an overseas beach somewhere in vacation land–because thats not at all what ours was like!

“I haven’t done much writing, I know”. A lame endlessly spoken phrase by bloggers throughout the summer vacation days, I know you’re tired of hearing. Especially by Moms. I get that. Here’s the thing though, our summer sucked. And I can promise you, it was NO VACATION around here! 

Oh, may I remind you first, I am thee most grateful person alive, thanks to the way my Mom raised me! That’s truly the only way we made it through our summer circumstances, with much hope and reasessed aspirations for our immediate future! 

In my *new life, I have always been sure to take a real good rigirously honest look at a situation:  I can decide to stay sore and harbour some resentments about the circumstances; OR I accept the outcome (the situation) with a new perspective, one of having learnt a valuable lesson. Or 2 or 3… *new life is a reference to my experience of recovering from addiction, and having been freed of that old life. “It is like being re-born” (Big Book of AA)

Here’s the “sitch

Long dramatic story as short as possible. 10 months ago left ‘hubby’ house vehicle & everything, traded for happiness. Restarted fresh again, in our new little town near family. They’re the only ones I can count on in life over and over, and I have finally learned that one. Where they move–we move! Period. Anyway, happily our wee family made our way to an apartment we made a home immediately. 4 year old developmentally delayed, had about a years growth set back durinmg the six months she was pulled out of daycare we called ‘school’. It costed the whole family trust me. Poor thing. So we looked so forward to our first Summer close to family :D!

Add a nightmare neighbour who knows nothing of consideration for others and her lack of self-awareness, we ended up having a waterfall throughout or new (landlord just newly renovated 1 year prior!) kitchen, bathroom, and diningroom/livingroom. Not pleased. We had brought everyting we could when we left our house behind and I am in debt over my head due to that ‘house stuff’. Point is, what we had left was not much. It was what I managed to salvage from a bitter split. Don’t get me wrong, I always chose happiness over “stuff”! It just seemed like it was “all we had” left you know. 

I dont like spending my time weeping over the past but, feel the need to get this off my chest …July 29th got flooded. Next day, contractors came to open walls at 430-7PM, yes very inconvenient timing. As they opened walls, found 10-15 YEARS worth of black mold growth; we could now not live in and had to pack 3 peoples important belongings to get out right away. Also, finding somewhere to stay temporarily. I only have Mom in this town.

 Let me take one step back:  That morning the assessment from head of contracting team was relaxed, playing it cool, not worried about us having to move out. There was no suggestion of that. I also requested very simply that our belongings be covered by his team with tarps, painters sheets, plastic rolls–I didnt care, as long as it was all covered. He  his understanding of that reuqest, by offering me the size/measurement type of plastic that would be used to cover our belongings. I re-affirmed it again, and went back to tidying up around the water damage I could deal with and went on worry free about my day! So as the pakc up, run and find accomodations now part of the day came, at 25 minutes before I had to pick up LO (the 4 year old with cognitive understanding delays), explain to her again, that we could not go home…. All and all, THAT was thee hardest part. Listening to her cry each day as we passed her home to get to ‘school’ that she wanted to go home, just ripped my heart in pieces. Nothing I said could help her understand again, that we could not go to her home because it was broken.

Thankfully, after the mess of lawyers, landlord tenant court visits, and finally forcing my landlord to do the right thing (accept give us the proper monetary compensation I know we deserve but, couldnt bother fighting for)–I played with terms I used with LO, and slowly assisted her into understanding this broken home stuff was no one’s fault and that we’d be back home in no time! Regardless of the truth that I didnt know when or what direction our circumstances were going at the time. 

During all of that mess, for the first time ever, I started having issues with my teenage brother and Mother. I dont need to get into that. You all know what fighting with family can look like. We ended up having a few (new remember) neighbours pull together and one lent us their families tent trailer! Called us to her house one evening, drove it over, set it up, lent us all the utilities we needed to cook and live–BAM! JUST LIKE THAT! We had a cool new temporary home, that was actually literally, in our own backyard LOL! Even TEEN was excited (til after a few hot mornings lol)! LO and I love the outdoors. Besides, we had always said we were going to the trailer this Summer; we just didnt know what way it was going to happen. 

This is my outlook. This is ME. This is the ways I have raised my children. I have to find the light in the dark. I have to be the light in the dark. I have to shine the light in the dark. 

Don’t get me wrong, it sucked real bad compared to home. But, we were able to use our bathroom (no ceiling) and bathe, so there wasn’t really much to complain about. Now, sleeping in a tent trailer for a single mom is pretty scary! I admit to you guys I barely slept a wink worrying about someone coming to get us lol…Thankfully we managed safely. However lovely my attitude of gratitude sounds, this story is not over yet! 

After 4 nights in the trailer, I started feeling like I was catching a cold. I never get sick so I was paying close attention to the changes in my body. (I am also ‘temporarily disabled’ at this time. that’s a whole other category too…) Maybe it was all the moving boxes, bags, garbage, furniture, stuff in and out from destroyed house, to Moms, to trailer, to insanity, that exhasuted my body enought to give into something. Either way I went straight to Doctors for a throat swab thinking it was Strep Throat; it was going around LOs school at the time. Got some antibiotics before the test results and went on my sick sucky way. 

I get some crazy headaches comparable to delivering twins no epidural through the sides of my head, with a weight the size of the old Coyote cartoons that used to drop on heads every episode; couldnt see, couldnt walk, couldnt talk. Headed to the doctors office whom called ahead to book me into hospital where I headed with TEEN next. All the while LO is at ‘school’ knowing non of this is happening. TEEN calls Mom who remember ‘doesnt enjoy her summer having us in her living space’ LMAO who now has to pick up and be Mom for God knows how long, right away, and make it to see God knows what’s going on in my head. My Mom doesnt prepare for sickness well. Always thinks I am over-reacting. But, I dont get sick. Shows up, just in time for me to get some pain meds (which arent provinding any relief at all), send TEEN home to her house; and jump into emergency ambulance ride to another hospital for a Cat Scan (of my pounding head)! I am in quarantine cuz there’s infection in blood, they just dont know what it is. 

After Cat Scan I get to have an Epidural! lol Actually, its abbreviated an LP Lumbar Puncture. LP is when they curve your spin, while awake, freeze your back, then freeze the nerves in your back somehow, puncture an enormous thick needle between two discs in lower back, to remove and test a persons Spinal Fluid. FUN! Spinal Fluid is sterile. That and Urine, I was informed. I guessed that’s why the ancients used urine as tooth paste apparently. Mine looked sterile, free from sightly bacteria, however further testing that day revealed White T Cells. Means infection. But, of what type:  A-Bacterial or B-Viral Praying for viral my mother went home and I was left feeling to die while giving birth through the brain. Not one drop of Morphine brought relief. I was curled up in a ball almost falling everytime I had to get up to use bathroom. Quaranteed, so no nurse even wanted anything to do with me, accept to poke, prod, and steal my blood for 2 long days and nights. We were told as soon as tests came back it was a Viral Menigitis. WOW! HAPPY CAMPER! No, I really was because if it was the Bacterial kind, there’s much higher risks of losing limbs and can even be fatal. The blessings rolled in from there on in. 

Finally, on the third day doctor came in changed pain meds, I found relief and next day was sent home… but after only 4 days and nights total for unworthy contractors, insurance companies and landlords to figure out when we’d have our home back…where was home to be. Thank God again, the second my Mom brought my iPhone, I sent landlord a message stating in hospital, get it done, I need my home asap. Period. And I truly at that point wouldve camped out in his families front yard had the work not of progressed as quickly (funny hey!y) as it did after that! Within two days we had our apartment repaired and painted, all accept for the laminate flooring throughout the main rooms laid

Ok, so here we are caught up to today. I am actually relaxing outdoors awating the arrival of the flooring guys, who’ve already tried to cancel once, just finished packing for a two day vacation away at you guessed it:  A friends parents TRAILER LMAO! Her parents heard our story and decided to book the rental trailer in their park for us, as a vacation for our last long weekend of Summer Vacation, of course. Like I haven’t seen enough of the inside of a trailer this year. Super grateful nonetheless though.

Their trailer park has 2 pools, a lake, and a beach. Great because LO has been asking to swim in a real pool forever. Cuz the neighbours ‘little’ pool is “not a real pool” according to her LMAO. She did have some amazing time swimming there, usually alone though, because of the temperature lol. My LO is a trooper and a teacher of strength and bravery for even me.

THERE, now that you are aware of our shitty summer OH SHIT–I Forgot to mention!

THAT “shit” word, is actually quite accurate. To sum up the reason for the flood, which I am sure you’re wondering about. Well, it had to be written on the insurance papers because, they have to include a “cause“:

The world’s largest feces, jammed in the tank of a low flush toilet

That was the exact cause…YES, even included photos in the claim. Even grosser still, since living with these wimpy-water-money-saving ‘low-flush-toilet systems (I totally appreciate that ok), I have had to train my children in the ‘How To Low-Flush Rules’ of our bathroom. Obviously the unawareness of our nightmare
neighbour hasn’t had experience with these rules. I pray she will remember them now. Seriously. These incidents happen often with the low-flush tanks.

From now on, I promise you no more shitty posts! We have learned much! I had many different personal experience epiphany’s I look forward to sharing with you for the next few posts. Enough with this shit. And just in case you were wondering, we’re all good now. We are excitedly relieved to be back in our home. We have moved forward.

I will be writing my next update post immediately after this one, to share some insight we gained through all of this.

Thanks for sticking around and having a read. I look forward to having the time now to read all about your summers. If you stopped by, you might as well leave me a link in the comments below so I can visit OK!?

Thanks, Your WP Friend/Family,
JayNine xo

On Line Memory Keepers

If you follow me on Instagram (see our latest in Life on Instagram in right side bar there–>) you will discover a few really cool different iTunes photo editing Apps, that I just adore!

While on Instagram, I tend to use their regular choices filters, to brighten, blur, or lighten a focal point within an image as a corrective measure lol. You’ll notice I favor one in particular that I am slightly obsessed with, iTunes My PopAGraph App.  Read more about PopAGraph here…

Like I have said before: 

an image taken, is more than just a ‘photo’. It contains the ultimate visual expression closest to tangible form of our very own personal experience; and pieces of our memories…” 

The editing tools on PopAGraph allows us to re-create the memory, even a little further. The main idea being to have the focal point of any image ‘pop’ or ‘stand-out’ above the rest of its surroundings. For fun examples, look through my blog in the PopAGraph Category, or search #popagraph on Instagram. Colour’s come to life, vibrance is at your fingertips; its like emotions are Popping off the page with feeling! 

(OH YEAH, **this post has been updated as it was to be shared prior to my Hospital stay last Wednesday…these are some photo examples of what we share on ‘insta‘ –which would have also covered last weeks Weekly Photo Challenge: “One Shot, Two Ways”)

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blue dots –landscape view of LO’s crafts aug2013

As a mother of two, I am so over trying to find the space to keep loads, piles, and endless years of paper memories from my children’s youth –Phew! 

InsteadI followed the footsteps of another (blogger mom, nope cant remember where from either lol) and started utilizing the digital on-line storage capabilities sites like Instagram have to freely offer! Now, I take photographs of the bests of the childrens/teens crafts or paperworks, add a description, a unique date in a hashtag form; and upload the lot there. Using the applications like Photo Journals. Best part is each image is dated, signed, sealed, away, and organized another AHHHHH… Phew

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blue dots, portrait view of LOs craft from aug2013

This way its keeping track for me and LO the different levels of her development, achievements, and growth. What’s better than also being able to present that growth to your child as they get older!? Especially with my LO as she struggles with Developmental Delays. The photo journal entries are simply incredible memory holders for us all! 

Instagram holds all of our images on their storage too, which saves us on computer storage space. Leave the images within your iPhone Photo Stream (where they are stored under “Instagram”) with the immediate availability to *print at your fingertips! Instead of the Mess!:D 

NOTE:  For *Print immediately options see your printers instructions. See they are  e-print or air print compatible.*

The other sites available for photo journals like this are flickr (which we dont use) and tumblr. You can create free accounts, store photos, dated and descriptive. Flickr even includes the type of camera some images were taken with.

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That’s it for now. WE have been recovering as a family from a series of unfortunate events–literally, not the movie title although at times I feel as though life itself was trying to rid me of the experience LOL! We’ve been from a flood, to mould exposure, lived in a trailer and Grandmas, and icing on the cake, renovated apartment without a floor; after just being released from hospital with a bout of (viral) Meningitis for me! 

Despite the trials and hardships, I have learned more as a person in the last month than I hav ever learned in life. About Life itself. We are all happy, all in one piece, and feel as though we’ve just got another new apartment ;D …

There is always a silver lining or a good side. What’s yours? Has your summer somehow worked out to be a non-vacation work-through type as well? Did it start out bad and reveal some good? What’s your blue spot on your shiny summer? What shined through most for you?!

JayNine xo

 

Link Day Friday | It’s Time Its Time

It’s Time guys! Time for Link Day Friday shares and, to announce the theme for the Daily Post Weekly Photo Challenge for this coming week. Get your pens, pencils, craft boxes, and camera’s ready STAT! Its going to be a quick one.

And the Theme is… “One Shot, Two Ways“. Be sure to read the detailed challenge rules in the link. These include more guidance and options for your photos, with links to other photography tips and tricks. To join in the photo challenge or writing challenges subscribe to the Daily Post. I am so glad I did! Pssst! Visit my other weekly photo posts

One Shot, Two Ways

one great craft shot, one way … Our own personal water bottle paint craft

 The perfect colorful crafting photo, covering two bases, and introducing the next subject:

One Shot, Two Ways

our perfectly crafty shot, a second way…using plastic water bottles, paint; elastic ;)

Link Day Friday 

Now, for the links– I get excited when readers stop to click for a peek at these links;) More then just sharing the information, I have been following these sites and their curators for some time now. They’re part of my routine. Alot of them share even more blogger resources. Trust me, keep these on hand! I promise they will delight your inbox and are each creative, worthy reads. Whichever you chose here’s the best of late:

1). Sash, curator of Inked In Colour:  

Outside of her blogs natural exterior beauty, Sash expresses herself passionately on issues important to her, and her readers.  As an Australian born woman she offers thought and conversational provoking view points with graceful assertiveness. As a Mother, she offers us an in-depth look into her experience in fostering creativity in children, plus her parenting and the ever so relatable piece containing bitter/sweet battles with child- ‘Weaning Hell‘! We Moms have all had some trouble with that at some point! 

2).  Handmade Charolette 

A site you may already be happily familiar with. Handmade Charolette is a web-collection full of blogging Mom’s providing inspiration for creative learning, and handmade DIY projects for children. The main focus by its creator, is on DIY Crafts & Design for Kids. Like them on their  Facebook Page for much more community communication, follow up photos, and further fun links.

3).  Discovered through Handmade Charolette’s contributors, was the  Natalia Kramer on her Google Plus Profile. Posts, photos, and links of her DIY craft projects. Kramers designs bring a child’s imagination to life, with designs jumping off the page! 

4). Small for Big 

…is where I found a valuable ABC’s Letter Playground idea link! Mari Richards‘ blog contains happy colors, and crafting DIY’s I just cannot explain in words. Her children’s toy finds beyond creatively unique.

Share your favorite creative kids activity, craft makers, DIY-ers, or your own link below.

We’re a busy little family this weekend. Maybe I’ll upload “One Shot, Two Ways” at some point again, when time;) Check out my Pinterest Boards for much more “pin-spiration”. Children’s World, DIY, and Land Of Etsy are full of useful information.

JayNine xox

Challenge the Rhino

Hey There!

Just a quick check in with you all! We have been busy around here, keeping our voices down, fingers working and much kid playtime! I have many photos to share with you all and look forward to sharing them with you.

As you all know I have joined forces with the Vanilla HouseWife in the “The Orange Rhino Challenge“. 365 days to eliminate the yelling and screaming that doesn’t work (anyway) in my parenting. The Orange Rhino Challenge was created by a Mom like any one of us, whom had difficulties in screaming and yelling ‘at’ (creator descriiption on her page*) her children.

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This Challenge was designed to encourage Mom’s/Parents/CareGivers to explore other more healthy options for Parenting without damaging words tones and voice levels. To be held accountable for her commitment she shared it publicly! Another way to collect support, inspiration, and shares from other parents to assist her in her journey; which is now a large on line community where all parents can utilize the strengths and stories of others, to help themselves. There is much information to be had from the ‘Orange Rhino Challenge‘(about), it’s creator, to ‘Take The Challenge‘, the public stories and shares on the Facebook Page for all to use! More links for assistance from page: Revelations, Resources, Alternative Actions, Contact Info

I am on day 1st for the 3rd time, because I have chosen to be hard on myself. Or dedicated. Last night was actually the very first time I actually raised my voice in frustration ‘at’ my child (no where even remotely close to past at all no comparison whatsoever!) However QUICK I was to recover my tone, lower my voice, but the action had already been done, and this is the way I take responsibility for my actions. There has been NOTHING but increased agitation, aggression, confusion and loudness from my 4 year old, since the day I took the Challenge within myself just about 7 days ago. Note to Self: Get a separate Calendar for proper celebrated day counts* (lol)

The reactions from the children whom are now in uprise against the authority all over the house (or the daycares or schools) now, while parents are endevouring on this type of challenge, has worldly increased! Or, is that the voice of my SCREAMING, grip of death lock, my LO has now when I drop her off at daycare? .. Either way, she now has no where to vent her aggression and anger issues, without both of us being held completely accountable for our actions.
(We do have other exploration going on for LO to have a place, space to deal with her aggression)

As scary, difficult and trying this Challenge can FEEL, sound or look; it is by far thee greatest thing that has ever happened to our relationship.

Update: in 6 days I have raised my voice. twice. (Wrong. Yes. I have counted it in my challenge chart) The voices around my home have lowered to a minimum at our best levels. The behaviors have shifted. It’s almost immeasurable the effort it takes, to the comparison of the results. The relationships flourishing, feeling more nourished, and the peace bubbling in my heart has never felt so intense. The children are paying more attention (including the teen? wow;) Their words with me are as great as my words with them. There is more work to be done. The results are beyond rewarding. I have no words to express my gratitude to the Mom that begun this inspirational life altering Challenge.

Get involved Mom. My LO reminds me already, “gentle voices Mom”.
Take The Challenge

JayNine xo

Ps. Stop over and encourage Miss Fanny P and my girl at the Fascinations of a Vanilla Housewife to assist in encouraging us to keep up the heard work this Challenge is for us! Thanks Moms!

Of Awards and Spectacular Days

Award time again!
This time I have to thank my Nominator friend over at ‘The Dissocial Mom’–who’s a real, refreshing, inspiration to myself as an independent parent. This is the second award nomination I have received and Im grateful! but, I’m responding by acknowledging the other nominees rather than myself (and my own). I have decided to re-blog this post for all of my followers to see; so they can in turn find more Mom Bloggers for them to relate to.

All you have to do is follow back to the original post reblogged here, from Dissocial Mom’s Blog, titled ‘Of Awards and Spectacular Days’ take a look, click around on some links, and VOILÁ! A brand new list of deserving, inspirational, parenting blog writer Mom’s (& beyond) for you to follow (without the research ;)
These ladies spend their time sharing with us, their treasured experiences of wine, better days, children, husbands, trials, successes, and roses ;) for us to take comfort in.

Now, GO! Join in giving them a round of applause and have a round (of following) on me!

Stick around for some deeper posts to come from me, here at j9sopinion

Thanks Again for nomination! ENJOY–
JayNine xox

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The Dissocial Mom

Boyohboyohboyohboy! More nominations! How exciting! Now normally I do response posts separate from my Saturday posts, but in the spirit of shaking things up I decided to make today’s post and my response post one in the same. I am just a crazy free spirit like that. Also just to be clear it has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that I couldn’t otherwise think of anything to write about today, that is purely coincidence.

From the lovely mama over at An exhausted mom’s journey to publication I have been nominated for The Very Inspiring Blogger Award! If you have yet to go over and have a visit at her blog, get your butt over there and have a peek!inspiringbloggeraward1

The second nomination comes from Kristy over at the very interesting-to-read blog Family, Friends and Everything in Between for the Bouquet of Three Award(s)! The Best Moment Award, The…

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