Father’s Love Letter – Transformation

I dont often re-blog. This is a Letter from A Father. Our little family has been going through many challenges lately. Somehow, I chose this link and received this unmistakeable message. Please visit this post. 

JayNine xo

Prayers and Promises

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Daily Prompt: Everything Changes

Walking down the street, you encounter a folded piece of paper on the sidewalk. You pick it up and read it and immediately, your life has changed. Describe this experience.

Photographers, artists, poets: show us TRANSFORMATION.

Father’s Love Letter

An Intimate Message From God To You.

My Child,

You may not know me,
but I know everything about you. 

Psalm 139:1

I know when you sit down and when you rise up. 
Psalm 139:2

I am familiar with all your ways. 
Psalm 139:3

Even the very hairs on your head are numbered. 
Matthew 10:29-31

For you were made in my image. 
Genesis 1:27

In me you live and move and have your being.
Acts 17:28

For you are my offspring. 
Acts 17:28

I knew you even before you were conceived. 
Jeremiah 1:4-5

I chose you when I planned creation. 
Ephesians 1:11-12

You were not a mistake,
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A Simple Write

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After weeks and months of trying this blogging thing out for the first time, I have come to a few conclusions. This post does not have a hidden lesson, or moral of the story, its just a post about my personal experience with my own blog.

I cannot write well. Writing from personal experience, is nothing like speaking from experience; as I have done in my past. I can stand up in a room filled with all of my readers, other bloggers, and strangers and do an excellent job sharing my words of wisdom for you all to hear. On any given topic that I know well, do it confidently, and I might even get a few laughs.

But, writing? from my own personal experience?
I cannot seem to chose from one subject or one experience, and produce a readable version of the event! I cannot put to paper how I remember it from my head! I don’t know why. I have been diligently trying to figure the answer out behind the scenes for months now, reading, re-reading, drafting, posting; there is no other answer accept that I am afraid of the outcome. I am afraid of how my works appear and how they will be received by all. Most of the time, my writing a real ‘good’ post stems from days of high stress, disorganization, yelling, and taking it all too personally. Especially since taking the Orange Rhino Challenge, LOL I have no way to complete the writing process with yelling anymore! ;) (thankfully!)

This all came about a few months ago. I found myself spending enormous amounts of time on my other website, design and architecture related (past work experience). All of a sudden, I realized I was getting grouchy, longing, and impatient with the kids and immediately thought of how much ‘computer time I was losing’. That’s when it hit me. I wasn’t spending time on the computer for love and enjoyment anymore, it was out of necessity. Something had to give.

After 3 days of no writing at all, missing article deadlines, and some time talking with God; we realized the missing element. My purpose for writing had become (more) self-centered than not. I am already getting too long so I’m not going to explain selfishness, we’re all plagued with it.

“Helping Others”that’s it. That is the missing element. Currently now I have some new plans for my other blog/sites which have shifted their sole purpose into helping others! Yes! Even in the design, architecture, and mommy world. I readdressed the whole helping others and made a firm decision: if my time on the computer wasn’t directed at helping others, I am no longer going to do it. Not to gain likes, followers, blogger awards, (not that I don’t appreciate those;) and recognition.

Here’s how I am not writing for an ‘audience’ anymore. I will be sharing from the depths of my complete honest experiences. If I find inspiration, I will write on it. In that moment. Not after I’ve had an edit opportunity. I will write from fresh from the moment. The intention is to be inspirational, real, honest, but mainly to help others. I will put the new perception into ‘action’ here on j9sopinion.com. I am helping someone great! If not, that’s great too because it is still helping me to remain connected, with my experience regardless.

Long term goal is to look back a while from now, and see the experiences change and the writing strength grow. I will use this post, from the past to not get caught up in numbers again. I will use this post for the off days in writing.

As always, I thank you all for stopping by and sticking around til the end. I look forward to many stories to relate to between us.
The easy way for me to communicate lol: CHECK Out what we’re up to while we’re gone on INSTAGRAM<<Link<< in photos lol.

Many Blessings,
JayNine xoxo (…that’s my pinterest link for all you wanting to see what else goes on in this head lol…)

Challenge the Rhino

Hey There!

Just a quick check in with you all! We have been busy around here, keeping our voices down, fingers working and much kid playtime! I have many photos to share with you all and look forward to sharing them with you.

As you all know I have joined forces with the Vanilla HouseWife in the “The Orange Rhino Challenge“. 365 days to eliminate the yelling and screaming that doesn’t work (anyway) in my parenting. The Orange Rhino Challenge was created by a Mom like any one of us, whom had difficulties in screaming and yelling ‘at’ (creator descriiption on her page*) her children.

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This Challenge was designed to encourage Mom’s/Parents/CareGivers to explore other more healthy options for Parenting without damaging words tones and voice levels. To be held accountable for her commitment she shared it publicly! Another way to collect support, inspiration, and shares from other parents to assist her in her journey; which is now a large on line community where all parents can utilize the strengths and stories of others, to help themselves. There is much information to be had from the ‘Orange Rhino Challenge‘(about), it’s creator, to ‘Take The Challenge‘, the public stories and shares on the Facebook Page for all to use! More links for assistance from page: Revelations, Resources, Alternative Actions, Contact Info

I am on day 1st for the 3rd time, because I have chosen to be hard on myself. Or dedicated. Last night was actually the very first time I actually raised my voice in frustration ‘at’ my child (no where even remotely close to past at all no comparison whatsoever!) However QUICK I was to recover my tone, lower my voice, but the action had already been done, and this is the way I take responsibility for my actions. There has been NOTHING but increased agitation, aggression, confusion and loudness from my 4 year old, since the day I took the Challenge within myself just about 7 days ago. Note to Self: Get a separate Calendar for proper celebrated day counts* (lol)

The reactions from the children whom are now in uprise against the authority all over the house (or the daycares or schools) now, while parents are endevouring on this type of challenge, has worldly increased! Or, is that the voice of my SCREAMING, grip of death lock, my LO has now when I drop her off at daycare? .. Either way, she now has no where to vent her aggression and anger issues, without both of us being held completely accountable for our actions.
(We do have other exploration going on for LO to have a place, space to deal with her aggression)

As scary, difficult and trying this Challenge can FEEL, sound or look; it is by far thee greatest thing that has ever happened to our relationship.

Update: in 6 days I have raised my voice. twice. (Wrong. Yes. I have counted it in my challenge chart) The voices around my home have lowered to a minimum at our best levels. The behaviors have shifted. It’s almost immeasurable the effort it takes, to the comparison of the results. The relationships flourishing, feeling more nourished, and the peace bubbling in my heart has never felt so intense. The children are paying more attention (including the teen? wow;) Their words with me are as great as my words with them. There is more work to be done. The results are beyond rewarding. I have no words to express my gratitude to the Mom that begun this inspirational life altering Challenge.

Get involved Mom. My LO reminds me already, “gentle voices Mom”.
Take The Challenge

JayNine xo

Ps. Stop over and encourage Miss Fanny P and my girl at the Fascinations of a Vanilla Housewife to assist in encouraging us to keep up the heard work this Challenge is for us! Thanks Moms!

Father’s Day, from a fathers eyes

THIS is a Dad. THIS is a Father. THIS is a MAN. Doesn’t matter the suit their wear, the size of their pockets, bank books, or shiny the car–DonOfAllTrades is a MUST Follow for real love, parenting, and all written by a wonderful, deserving, real Father.
Happy Father’s Day to the Real Ones!
J9;)

don of all trades

While I like to joke about them, I love my kids, of course.

I’m their dad.

I suck at showing it all the time.

I don’t say I love you enough, I’m sure. I do try to say it everyday, but it never seems like enough.

I often go to bed after not seeing my kids at all during the day because of work. I miss them on those days and I sometimes find myself wondering if I’m doing enough to make sure they know how I feel about them.

The boys are small enough that they probably could care less at this point, but Ace is a big girl and soon she’ll have big girl issues. I want her to be able to come to me with those issues knowing that I’ll do my best to help her and love her in spite of whatever is going on.

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