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The December 2013 Ontario Canada Ice Storm… the mess

 CATCH UP:  Welcome Back! Let’s get right into what’s been taking up all of my time…Weather! No, I am not a weather man/person, the whole North American Content seems to be under a sinister snow attack courtesy of Mother Nature herself! 52% of the US as reported here in Canada, is under record breaking snow falls and low temperatures. That’s now. Over the last two months of my hiatus we had (hydro) power in time for Christmas Eve, an 8:15pm New Years Eve countdown (perfect for me!) and got back my laptop!

Now, I can use the amazing “Press This! to post! Be prepared to find simple easy linked posts, sending you straight through to a website that I have found interesting for me, and possibly useful for you all ;D  I will attempt this through WordPress’ Google Chrome Extension. It’s kinda like the PIN IT! is for Pinterest but only for posting on your WordPress Blog.

Why haven’t I used this before? Well, that’s because up until finding the kindest computer man on the planet, I had no hope to ever being able to use my laptop again!  HOORAY! I got our home laptop baby back and up to work just two days ago. Benefits of small town kindness. (If you ever read my blog, many thanks again Ron & family ;) AND, the extension itself is NOT available for mobile device internet browsers, like safari on Apple devices. Outside from the Laptop that was in the shop for four months, we use mobile only, which I actually prefer. So this is a treat being able to have the Laaptop back and I’m going to enjoy it lol.

 

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WELCOME: With a renewed New Years blogging spirit, you will see and hear from me much more than you have before. Not going to make promises, resolutions, or commitments more than a once a week post, for now. Not even sure what I will be posting about, which leaves the mind open for suggestions, learning, and trying new things! I do commit to be true to myself, honest, creative, and complain a little. Looking forward to hearing from you all.

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VISIT:  I follow alot of great freaking-fantastic bloggers as well!  They’re the true writers/bloggers! They share much thought-provoking conversation. These skilled folks induce much responsive conversation both inside my head, or in my draft box mostly lol. Be sure to check out that list entitled “Inspiring Bloggers” in the side bar links too. They will have no problems keeping you entertained and offering you the most interesting reads until my weekly returns, trust me! Some of the subjects covered are laughter, sweet & smart living in 300SQ FTdepression and anxiety (incredibly talented writer here), home DIY’s, creativity, fun kids stuff, healthy moms kids stuff, best homeschooling momma, opinionated, and what everyone needs, yes, a Cranky Granny. A few of these bloggers offer free giveaways as well. Guess you’ll have to visit them all if you want to find them ;D Now for more… 

PICTURES:  

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outside of the damage some of the photos were beautiful. i showed the LO the thickness between the ice & the branches. an obvious difference!


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looking ahead at the girls as we trudge under the falling trees.


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this is not even near “tall” when compared to the real tall trees lining our streets. the devastation was worse in other areas…


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as we turned the corner the next street was like walking in a labyrinth of fallen slick ice trees. each & every tree on this street hung perfectly over the sidewalks. dangerously…

THE ICE STORM:  For now, we in Ontario, Canada have been in recovery from the Ice Storm 2013 that literally fell on our heads and homes this Christmas Season. For a bitter total of 9 days, (plus that for some) 500,000 residents of our closest big city (Toronto), our town, and our surrounding neighborhoods big and small, all had no power. none. absolutely none. meaning no heat, spoiled food, no elevators, city buildings, and very busy emergency vehicle response teams. That was terrifying, besides being in the dark everywhere… the individual struggles alone were/are endless even still.

When it comes to weather-watch, we are all as a town and city, still under much stress or heightened awareness for now, from that devastation. Many of us are still without food replacements, from all we’ve lost in that Ice Storm 2013. (including us, neighbours, & friends we know included!)

Just yesterday at the grocery store normally very quiet and slow on Sunday’s, I watched bunches of shoppers scurrying around, seemingly collecting and collecting all over again. We just last evening again, received more snow storm warnings, freezing rain warnings (that’s the scary one), even blizzard watches in areas, and the coldest Windchill Warnings. OH, my favorite NewsTalk Radio Station just reported “feeling like -42 with the coming windchill, even colder”. It will take 5 minutes before your hands or uncovered skin will be frost bitten. Coldest that I remember in years, arriving today and tomorrow.

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As we walk further, it’s like each tree was mis-planted, UPSIDE DOWN–some of these are not perfectly clear because it was a cold night walk.

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and as you look across the street at this row of trees, they ALL look like they’ve been planted UPSIDE DOWN…it’s very sad

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As I was saying I headed to the grocery store yesterday to grab the necessities because we spent 9 long days plus, trapped indoors in that last ice storm. I wanted to be prepared as much as the next guy. I think we’re still on edge. We are walkers and even during the storm, the sidewalks (understandably so) were the very last things the Town Employees were working on clearing. With as much as 10 cm plus (don’t know the real numbers) of layered ice on the sidewalks and my disability, there was NO WAY I was able to get the kids out and about for any reason at that time. Including food. The Town (& city of Toronto) are all just beginning the clean up. The cost? $75 Million Dollars. As individuals and families touched by this record breaking catastrophic storm, we are all trying to clean up and calculate each of our own personal damage caused as well. For us, we were lucky as far as having heat, power, hydro, however we could not get out to replenish food due to sidewalks.

We all snuggled in together over a long Winters (past) weekend with candles, water, and blankets prepared. OH and a handful of noise makers in case the kids start their back to school week, without school :D Mine had school but some of our family members and surrounding schools did not due to this second snow storm! Some just got back to school today. Happy to report no loss of power yet but, I have to admit it is a worry much on the mind. There is still much more to come tonight and tomorrow.

(.. Ohhh, My aching head…;) 

NOW the good news the brighter side, the silver lining; as my regular readers know I always find and share. We only lost power for a total of 2 days, we had much to be grateful for and spent a lot of time praying for the safety and needs of others. Speaking of prayers, unfortunately, even our church closed and missed it’s very first Sunday service ever! 

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Just after Christmas the street trees looked like glistening tinsel or lined with CHRISTMAS lights

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This was not our tree. This was a neighbours tree that actually crashed completely on their vehicle, which luckily wasn’t damaged

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a look at our ice covered trees

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our backyard ice rink. the trees above our train tracks here were literally crashing and inside every 3 minutes during the Ice Storm 2013, we could hear them falling. Super Loud & when no power: super spooky too

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Ice Storm Bundles ;) This is mainly what we did over freezing ‘holidays’ ….

As a sweet family of three girlies, we got much anxiety ridden time to hang together.  iPads in hand, we searched websites for some crafting, DIY’ing and coloring activities to keep us busy. Over the Ice Storm and this past cold and snowy weekend, we found even more! We were able to print many different items to play with after coloring and decorating. I will be sharing them via the Press This Google Extension which I am so excited about! The next post will be a look into this.

Really good to be up and blogging again. Look forward to catching up soon! How was everyones holidays? Did you get stuck indoors due to weather? Does your family have a special traditional activity you preform together over the holidays? Did you go somewhere warm? Skratch that I don’t actually want to know the answer to that question LOL ;D Kidding, Share away folks! Did you know anyone in your family or friends that was here in Ontario Canada during our wretched storm? Were they affected in anyway? did you travel during this storm? plane flight delays across country?

Happy New Year,

Jaynine ;)

P.S. We are still waiting patiently for nice above minus 30 weather so we can get out and do more of this:

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Before Ice Storm 2013



Our **** Summer

These are the stories of our summer experience.  Don’t expect glorious photos of an overseas beach somewhere in vacation land–because thats not at all what ours was like!

“I haven’t done much writing, I know”. A lame endlessly spoken phrase by bloggers throughout the summer vacation days, I know you’re tired of hearing. Especially by Moms. I get that. Here’s the thing though, our summer sucked. And I can promise you, it was NO VACATION around here! 

Oh, may I remind you first, I am thee most grateful person alive, thanks to the way my Mom raised me! That’s truly the only way we made it through our summer circumstances, with much hope and reasessed aspirations for our immediate future! 

In my *new life, I have always been sure to take a real good rigirously honest look at a situation:  I can decide to stay sore and harbour some resentments about the circumstances; OR I accept the outcome (the situation) with a new perspective, one of having learnt a valuable lesson. Or 2 or 3… *new life is a reference to my experience of recovering from addiction, and having been freed of that old life. “It is like being re-born” (Big Book of AA)

Here’s the “sitch

Long dramatic story as short as possible. 10 months ago left ‘hubby’ house vehicle & everything, traded for happiness. Restarted fresh again, in our new little town near family. They’re the only ones I can count on in life over and over, and I have finally learned that one. Where they move–we move! Period. Anyway, happily our wee family made our way to an apartment we made a home immediately. 4 year old developmentally delayed, had about a years growth set back durinmg the six months she was pulled out of daycare we called ‘school’. It costed the whole family trust me. Poor thing. So we looked so forward to our first Summer close to family :D!

Add a nightmare neighbour who knows nothing of consideration for others and her lack of self-awareness, we ended up having a waterfall throughout or new (landlord just newly renovated 1 year prior!) kitchen, bathroom, and diningroom/livingroom. Not pleased. We had brought everyting we could when we left our house behind and I am in debt over my head due to that ‘house stuff’. Point is, what we had left was not much. It was what I managed to salvage from a bitter split. Don’t get me wrong, I always chose happiness over “stuff”! It just seemed like it was “all we had” left you know. 

I dont like spending my time weeping over the past but, feel the need to get this off my chest …July 29th got flooded. Next day, contractors came to open walls at 430-7PM, yes very inconvenient timing. As they opened walls, found 10-15 YEARS worth of black mold growth; we could now not live in and had to pack 3 peoples important belongings to get out right away. Also, finding somewhere to stay temporarily. I only have Mom in this town.

 Let me take one step back:  That morning the assessment from head of contracting team was relaxed, playing it cool, not worried about us having to move out. There was no suggestion of that. I also requested very simply that our belongings be covered by his team with tarps, painters sheets, plastic rolls–I didnt care, as long as it was all covered. He  his understanding of that reuqest, by offering me the size/measurement type of plastic that would be used to cover our belongings. I re-affirmed it again, and went back to tidying up around the water damage I could deal with and went on worry free about my day! So as the pakc up, run and find accomodations now part of the day came, at 25 minutes before I had to pick up LO (the 4 year old with cognitive understanding delays), explain to her again, that we could not go home…. All and all, THAT was thee hardest part. Listening to her cry each day as we passed her home to get to ‘school’ that she wanted to go home, just ripped my heart in pieces. Nothing I said could help her understand again, that we could not go to her home because it was broken.

Thankfully, after the mess of lawyers, landlord tenant court visits, and finally forcing my landlord to do the right thing (accept give us the proper monetary compensation I know we deserve but, couldnt bother fighting for)–I played with terms I used with LO, and slowly assisted her into understanding this broken home stuff was no one’s fault and that we’d be back home in no time! Regardless of the truth that I didnt know when or what direction our circumstances were going at the time. 

During all of that mess, for the first time ever, I started having issues with my teenage brother and Mother. I dont need to get into that. You all know what fighting with family can look like. We ended up having a few (new remember) neighbours pull together and one lent us their families tent trailer! Called us to her house one evening, drove it over, set it up, lent us all the utilities we needed to cook and live–BAM! JUST LIKE THAT! We had a cool new temporary home, that was actually literally, in our own backyard LOL! Even TEEN was excited (til after a few hot mornings lol)! LO and I love the outdoors. Besides, we had always said we were going to the trailer this Summer; we just didnt know what way it was going to happen. 

This is my outlook. This is ME. This is the ways I have raised my children. I have to find the light in the dark. I have to be the light in the dark. I have to shine the light in the dark. 

Don’t get me wrong, it sucked real bad compared to home. But, we were able to use our bathroom (no ceiling) and bathe, so there wasn’t really much to complain about. Now, sleeping in a tent trailer for a single mom is pretty scary! I admit to you guys I barely slept a wink worrying about someone coming to get us lol…Thankfully we managed safely. However lovely my attitude of gratitude sounds, this story is not over yet! 

After 4 nights in the trailer, I started feeling like I was catching a cold. I never get sick so I was paying close attention to the changes in my body. (I am also ‘temporarily disabled’ at this time. that’s a whole other category too…) Maybe it was all the moving boxes, bags, garbage, furniture, stuff in and out from destroyed house, to Moms, to trailer, to insanity, that exhasuted my body enought to give into something. Either way I went straight to Doctors for a throat swab thinking it was Strep Throat; it was going around LOs school at the time. Got some antibiotics before the test results and went on my sick sucky way. 

I get some crazy headaches comparable to delivering twins no epidural through the sides of my head, with a weight the size of the old Coyote cartoons that used to drop on heads every episode; couldnt see, couldnt walk, couldnt talk. Headed to the doctors office whom called ahead to book me into hospital where I headed with TEEN next. All the while LO is at ‘school’ knowing non of this is happening. TEEN calls Mom who remember ‘doesnt enjoy her summer having us in her living space’ LMAO who now has to pick up and be Mom for God knows how long, right away, and make it to see God knows what’s going on in my head. My Mom doesnt prepare for sickness well. Always thinks I am over-reacting. But, I dont get sick. Shows up, just in time for me to get some pain meds (which arent provinding any relief at all), send TEEN home to her house; and jump into emergency ambulance ride to another hospital for a Cat Scan (of my pounding head)! I am in quarantine cuz there’s infection in blood, they just dont know what it is. 

After Cat Scan I get to have an Epidural! lol Actually, its abbreviated an LP Lumbar Puncture. LP is when they curve your spin, while awake, freeze your back, then freeze the nerves in your back somehow, puncture an enormous thick needle between two discs in lower back, to remove and test a persons Spinal Fluid. FUN! Spinal Fluid is sterile. That and Urine, I was informed. I guessed that’s why the ancients used urine as tooth paste apparently. Mine looked sterile, free from sightly bacteria, however further testing that day revealed White T Cells. Means infection. But, of what type:  A-Bacterial or B-Viral Praying for viral my mother went home and I was left feeling to die while giving birth through the brain. Not one drop of Morphine brought relief. I was curled up in a ball almost falling everytime I had to get up to use bathroom. Quaranteed, so no nurse even wanted anything to do with me, accept to poke, prod, and steal my blood for 2 long days and nights. We were told as soon as tests came back it was a Viral Menigitis. WOW! HAPPY CAMPER! No, I really was because if it was the Bacterial kind, there’s much higher risks of losing limbs and can even be fatal. The blessings rolled in from there on in. 

Finally, on the third day doctor came in changed pain meds, I found relief and next day was sent home… but after only 4 days and nights total for unworthy contractors, insurance companies and landlords to figure out when we’d have our home back…where was home to be. Thank God again, the second my Mom brought my iPhone, I sent landlord a message stating in hospital, get it done, I need my home asap. Period. And I truly at that point wouldve camped out in his families front yard had the work not of progressed as quickly (funny hey!y) as it did after that! Within two days we had our apartment repaired and painted, all accept for the laminate flooring throughout the main rooms laid

Ok, so here we are caught up to today. I am actually relaxing outdoors awating the arrival of the flooring guys, who’ve already tried to cancel once, just finished packing for a two day vacation away at you guessed it:  A friends parents TRAILER LMAO! Her parents heard our story and decided to book the rental trailer in their park for us, as a vacation for our last long weekend of Summer Vacation, of course. Like I haven’t seen enough of the inside of a trailer this year. Super grateful nonetheless though.

Their trailer park has 2 pools, a lake, and a beach. Great because LO has been asking to swim in a real pool forever. Cuz the neighbours ‘little’ pool is “not a real pool” according to her LMAO. She did have some amazing time swimming there, usually alone though, because of the temperature lol. My LO is a trooper and a teacher of strength and bravery for even me.

THERE, now that you are aware of our shitty summer OH SHIT–I Forgot to mention!

THAT “shit” word, is actually quite accurate. To sum up the reason for the flood, which I am sure you’re wondering about. Well, it had to be written on the insurance papers because, they have to include a “cause“:

The world’s largest feces, jammed in the tank of a low flush toilet

That was the exact cause…YES, even included photos in the claim. Even grosser still, since living with these wimpy-water-money-saving ‘low-flush-toilet systems (I totally appreciate that ok), I have had to train my children in the ‘How To Low-Flush Rules’ of our bathroom. Obviously the unawareness of our nightmare
neighbour hasn’t had experience with these rules. I pray she will remember them now. Seriously. These incidents happen often with the low-flush tanks.

From now on, I promise you no more shitty posts! We have learned much! I had many different personal experience epiphany’s I look forward to sharing with you for the next few posts. Enough with this shit. And just in case you were wondering, we’re all good now. We are excitedly relieved to be back in our home. We have moved forward.

I will be writing my next update post immediately after this one, to share some insight we gained through all of this.

Thanks for sticking around and having a read. I look forward to having the time now to read all about your summers. If you stopped by, you might as well leave me a link in the comments below so I can visit OK!?

Thanks, Your WP Friend/Family,
JayNine xo

Summer Fun Photo Update

A collection of our latest fun in photos (with minimal descriptions I promise!) through the last 2 weeks.

The intention is to inspire ideas for parents. No specific crafts, just fun times. I always find photos from my mommy blogger friends can ignite a creative spark in me, for craft or activity ideas! Enjoy!

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1. The (gently used) New Princess Bike! with training wheels.
2 weekends ago, my LO’s2nd hand black, with faded pink wheels and blue lighting bolts across the standing space, birthday gift, and first ever Scooter: WAS STOLEN Yep! From our small town’s local ‘family’ park.

We live in what is reported to be thee ‘safest town in Ontario, Canada‘. Our Scooters cant spend a night forgotten by a young child, without being taken? Saddest part was not that. LO was so elated regardless of scooters ‘condition’ she brought the Scooter inside, parked it right at her bedside, every single night for at least the first 4 nights; kissing it to bed nightly. She only had it a month maybe. I posted flyers, sent notes to Editor in newspaper, even wrote on their Facebook Page; to no avail. Good News: This bike came from the missing scooter. LO was a confident rider, after just the 1st day; and it’s too big for our bedroom!

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2. LO infamous for scratching her mosquito bites until they bleed ouch! Has to wear bandaids, until she learns not too! LO met up with her favorite girlfriend from out of town. They were supermodel posers; and had a make-up makeover in the Park–my LO goes no where without her purse. LOL

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3. Best spent $7.00 on a Water Snake Sprinkler from Walmart for the backyard. We beat this humidity and add plenty of outdoor fun. Welcomed LOs favorite neighbour for water play!

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the goof troop continued shots

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my girl always seems to hog the spotlight

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4. Had too many of these to even count since last I shared here on my Blog! Campfires in my backyard has always been one of the dreams I have had, for my home and children. Even in our ‘house’ we never had one. We are very blessed and try to enjoy a fire a night when we can.

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more goofiness around the campfire. you can take the girl away from the clown (being her father) but, you cant take the clown out of the girl! (that part of his inherent personality I am so grateful for)

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5. You guys knew I was going to use at least 1 #PopAGraph iTunes App photo right?!
From a visit to Grandma’s.

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6. Playing ‘smash the balls’ (ask me later) in the backyard. This is LO ‘keeping her EYE on the BALL‘ I was laughing so hard, no mater what I said, this is what she would do!

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7. Went to a new church Free Flea Market and Lunch and fun with the other members. Amazing place. It is now our home church. On the hours walk up hill with the wagon; we stopped multiple times to enjoy God’s provided beauty here. A Squirrel collecting.

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8. Me and the LO posing with the stream in the background (cannot be seen) right next to the Squirrel.

2 more photos on my way out from @Popagraph app. Find them on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram: @PopAGraph or #popagraph search and PURCHASE NOW! lol its an amazing photo effects app for everyone. Hope you enjoyed this post. Check in next week for better writing. I am short on time. Doing my Best and sending my Best to You All!!

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on the monkey bars at school picnic

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from Jaynine xox and family

Info and Updates

Every blogger around this time of Summer and ‘relaxation’ (for some lol!), are finding the time for blogging slim to none. This is an update of our Orange Rhino Challenge, providing links for parent support, social media outlets, and other Mommy bloggers from around the web taking the challenge.

For those of you that don’t know, I have accepted the Orange Rhino Challenge; to better my parenting without ‘yelling & screaming’ for 365 days. I am at DAY 2 (again), on my 3rd attempt! We’re still ‘under construction’.

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The results? INSTANT turn around! Remember, its a process of breaking ties of my past, and past parenting. Its not that simple. Its a part of me, a part of my ‘make up’ that needs demolition and the Orange Rhino is truly just scratching the surface. Sadly, this past weekend, I turned to an instant 10 steps back…Blame the weather, my patience, not keeping in touch, too many doctors appointments–it doesn’t matter.
I am admittedly back at DAY 2, and I will not give up on myself, because it is a goal for my children (and self).

The Reevaluation? My going about this. I have chose to turn it down a notch, to a 30 DAY challenge, to start. The obvious long term goal, is to collect 12 months 365 days, and to have the challenge last forever. period. Personally, these types of large change, work better in smaller increments (which is allowed through taking the challenge guidelines/rules;)!

For Me, my successes have been well achieved through applying my tools, the following way:
* ‘One Day at a Time’ *
* One hour at a time *
* ‘One situation at a Time’ *
Breaking the days down, as each separate situation as it
rears its ugly head, is much easier a pill to swallow
.

I have learned so much so far, about myself, my parenting, and about my wonderful children.

I ‘HATE’ Humidity:
I don’t ‘hate’ anything, anyone, nor do we even use the word! The humidity is the contributing factor! It adversely affects the children and I. We do not work well, under these temperatures! Enjoy your A/C parents because we do not have that luxury, yet lol! Changes our mood, my patience, and all of our physical comforts. YUK!
* I am reminded of this lesson through the heat: I must stay focused on being a better parent, no matter what the weather (that’s silly and embarrassing to hear aloud!), or circumstance, right? This is not something I didn’t know but, I (obviously) needed the reminder. Everyone is uncomfortable with this heat. I must remember, to ‘be in thought of the others’ as well. Another skill I work on daily, regardless of challenges.

Children crave Discipline:
And, so do I! We all know this. We all have read article that prove, dealing with any child’s ‘mis-behaviour’ or difficult behaviours, can easily be curved with well disciplined parenting. This, for me is a struggle right now. I have a hard time in a challenging moment, to deliver the correct, age, and learning ability, consequences, for these unwanted behaviours.

Mainly, this comes from having a 4 year old with developmental learning disabilities (still undiagnosed as to what specifically), leaving me in a place of questioning my consequences constantly. So, I Read, read more, search for more information, on line, books, and I await the proper resources! My daughter just had her first diagnosis Assessment–only to see if she qualifies for assistance provided by our region’s government. This will then provide her and I with: funding, occupational therapist for her at daycare/school, a resource therapist POR MOI; and a slue of other services, to better lead LOs development correctly.
I am ecstatic about this news from professionals! FINALLY! Everyone had said to me, ‘it’s normal‘ ‘she’ll grow out of it‘ . As her only parent & mother, I have always known, something just wasn’t quite right.

For now, my consequence deliveries (sometimes just my parenting in general) are hit and miss. Sometimes I laugh at myself wondering what I was thinking! Which brings me to the BEST PART OF PARENTING:

LAUGHING:
An old friend used to advise me on the hard days, “Look at a situation like you’re watching it through the TV…’Friends’ or ‘Rosanne’… from the couch. See a sit-com! It will help you relax, let go, and maybe even laugh! Not allow you to take your life so seriously” I admit, after never giving this idea a fair shot: IT WORKS! In most situations, I have chosen to laugh as of late! Even just smile when it hurts, resisting the temptation to yell. Results? I found the immediate results of pretending I was ok and this was somehow ‘funny’–almost instantly lightens my heart.

With my own personal anxiety difficulties, I find my heart feels heavy, burdened some moments, almost sad at times; before, during and after encountering ‘challenging’ parenting situations. The Sit-Com Idea is becoming a well-used one! The look on my youngsters face seems to shift from anger, to confusion, her eyes looking back at mine, (I am ALWAYS at eye level when interacting), and her ears almost perk up like a puppy to listen to the words I have to say…and, we’re smiling again.

The Orange Rhino Challenge has changed my parenting styles forever.
It has touched my life, heart, and the same of my children
.

Please, share all of your own tips, advice, experience, inspiration, ideas, and parenting skills, here.
Please, go visit and encourage the other “WordPress Family” members, as embark on the same journey. I know they’ll appreciate it. (lists below:)
We all LOVE that you all are keeping us accountable and inspired to continue, on our personal journeys.

MORE links of some other new Challenge Accepting Moms, I found from the web:
— the ‘Family Organic‘ pop over to encourage the 5 days fresh challenge accepter
on Blogger!
‘Table of Seven’ a WP Blog I just found here
— ‘Forgetful Momma‘ (sounds just like me already) on Blogger, I believe
— ‘Becoming Boston on Blogger however, I cannot
find a post date

WordPress Families taking the challenge are:
Fascinations of a Vanilla Housewifethe (amazing 21 days free)
— (fun) Adventures of Miss Fanny P
‘Empowering Lives 4 Him’ invites us to join her, WordPress!
**feel free to leave your blog link below in comments for support. I will add it to this post.**

JayNine xo
PS–Read the post before this one for photos from our last weeks, without blogging!

A NOTE:to those ‘taking the challenge’.
*Remember* utilize the resources the site provides. Use the support of Orange Rhino’s Facebook Page or ‘Support Group‘! An inspiring place to remind us DON’T QUIT we have much support. I found the challenge creators Tube Channel! We all have to ‘Subscribe‘ IDEA: we should all perform Guest Videos right?

365 Parenting Challenge

That’s it! I’m DONE! I have put this off for far too long and the guilt and shame is relentless!
No More!

After reading this post by the Vanilla Housewife)(follow her!) I made a decision. A decision to take action, action against myself!
3 days ago, I took an oath to no longer ‘scream’ and/or ‘yell’ at my children. I am on day 4/365 to scream-free parenting; in accordance to the guidelines from the Orange Rhino Challenge.(about), with much to report…Unexpected results have happened already.

Without needing to go into an entire background check of reasons why I have scrreamed and yelled as a parent in the last 14 years, I would like to remain focused on the present moment and future successes. I am using this post to admit my faults, flaws, and absolute inability to control any situation around me, without yelling. I am focused on looking forward. I am determined to create change. I admit my misuse of parental power or that which I believed I had attained by yelling. (imagine?) This, my friends, make NO mistake is an extremely difficult flaw to admit; to you, to anyone. Anyone that has participated in something like this will say the same thing! I commend and thank those that came before me to share their inspiration. Remember, I am essentially admitting defeat in myself, in my parenting skills, admitting the cause of pain to my own precious child. (as I sit in tears).

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But, on with the Challenge(details here)!!!
I taking up my sword** rising it against my foe, and ridding my-SELF of: the great angry woman/mother/hurt child that lies inside me and cheats me from having any real happy new experiences with my children today. With BOTH of my children. Teen and Four year old.
(**sword: reference to the assistance here from the Rhino Site suggestions, but also, the
Word Of God that is my core strength).

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Today, I am (RE-) taking this Oath for all to witness, in writing here and will be publicly held accountable and report to you all, the challenges and changes to come. Orange Rhino site to join me. Take a look around to read the comments, replies, reports, and support of each other, on each. Or read 12 Steps to Stop Yelling at Your Children.

I have made it (almost to the end of day) 4 days, without screaming ‘at’ my 4 year old or teen!
I have made so much progress with my LO that I feel a sense of trust re-building, and rejoicing in my heart, that I can actually feel, glowing, strongly. The binds of our relationship are not heavy, weak, and based on fear. Their uplifting, strong, and based on love. Don’t get me wrong, LO knows when a change is in the air and produced the most difficult and defiant situations this weekend before me–in hopes I’d scream. Oh no folks, she does do some of it intentionally, to see how far til I scream. This weekend, lol, shes tried so much that I looked at her and said, in a calm voice(at her level)with a smile on my face (all I could do not to break my toe in drywall) “I know you want mommy to scream yes? Well, it’s not going to happen so stop trying” LOL
We had one incident maybe I will link a post to that here at some point.
Otherwise

So far, SOO good...
I will be posting updates as the days pass and placing the Links to them under a new Page I will start today (adding links regularly), titled: “365 Parenting” Each post numbered as such.
Today will be filed under “4/365”
Hopefully I will move forward,
and not back in number.
Leave with me your tips, advice, helpful links, or some kicks in the butt to keep up the work I must complete as it has been a fruitful weekend since beginning this Challenge.

In Sincerest Honesty,

JayNine xo
*I will be adding a most helpful “Page” full of links for help for any others in need of support; or even children’s activities, for your parenting resources. You can leave help tips in the “Reply” space, there too.

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