Challenge the Rhino

Hey There!

Just a quick check in with you all! We have been busy around here, keeping our voices down, fingers working and much kid playtime! I have many photos to share with you all and look forward to sharing them with you.

As you all know I have joined forces with the Vanilla HouseWife in the “The Orange Rhino Challenge“. 365 days to eliminate the yelling and screaming that doesn’t work (anyway) in my parenting. The Orange Rhino Challenge was created by a Mom like any one of us, whom had difficulties in screaming and yelling ‘at’ (creator descriiption on her page*) her children.

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This Challenge was designed to encourage Mom’s/Parents/CareGivers to explore other more healthy options for Parenting without damaging words tones and voice levels. To be held accountable for her commitment she shared it publicly! Another way to collect support, inspiration, and shares from other parents to assist her in her journey; which is now a large on line community where all parents can utilize the strengths and stories of others, to help themselves. There is much information to be had from the ‘Orange Rhino Challenge‘(about), it’s creator, to ‘Take The Challenge‘, the public stories and shares on the Facebook Page for all to use! More links for assistance from page: Revelations, Resources, Alternative Actions, Contact Info

I am on day 1st for the 3rd time, because I have chosen to be hard on myself. Or dedicated. Last night was actually the very first time I actually raised my voice in frustration ‘at’ my child (no where even remotely close to past at all no comparison whatsoever!) However QUICK I was to recover my tone, lower my voice, but the action had already been done, and this is the way I take responsibility for my actions. There has been NOTHING but increased agitation, aggression, confusion and loudness from my 4 year old, since the day I took the Challenge within myself just about 7 days ago. Note to Self: Get a separate Calendar for proper celebrated day counts* (lol)

The reactions from the children whom are now in uprise against the authority all over the house (or the daycares or schools) now, while parents are endevouring on this type of challenge, has worldly increased! Or, is that the voice of my SCREAMING, grip of death lock, my LO has now when I drop her off at daycare? .. Either way, she now has no where to vent her aggression and anger issues, without both of us being held completely accountable for our actions.
(We do have other exploration going on for LO to have a place, space to deal with her aggression)

As scary, difficult and trying this Challenge can FEEL, sound or look; it is by far thee greatest thing that has ever happened to our relationship.

Update: in 6 days I have raised my voice. twice. (Wrong. Yes. I have counted it in my challenge chart) The voices around my home have lowered to a minimum at our best levels. The behaviors have shifted. It’s almost immeasurable the effort it takes, to the comparison of the results. The relationships flourishing, feeling more nourished, and the peace bubbling in my heart has never felt so intense. The children are paying more attention (including the teen? wow;) Their words with me are as great as my words with them. There is more work to be done. The results are beyond rewarding. I have no words to express my gratitude to the Mom that begun this inspirational life altering Challenge.

Get involved Mom. My LO reminds me already, “gentle voices Mom”.
Take The Challenge

JayNine xo

Ps. Stop over and encourage Miss Fanny P and my girl at the Fascinations of a Vanilla Housewife to assist in encouraging us to keep up the heard work this Challenge is for us! Thanks Moms!

11 thoughts on “Challenge the Rhino

  1. That’s my Zero-Yell’O buddy right there! (Too cheesy? LOL) I’m so proud of you! Just hang in there and let’s all remember to use our gentle voices ;)
    Sure hope Miss Fanny is doing alright as well. This is so much better than getting angry all the time (still have so much work to do about that though) it’s all about perspective as what the Orange Rhino mentioned.
    And there’s a bonus to this called Less Wrinkles and Lighter Heart <3

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    • Oh girl!!! It’s sooo not to say I don’t get angry! That is the next part I’m working on. On my own time, with my own therapist you know?! Cuz I don’t want those inner animosities hurting the little ones either. I don’t know about yours but when I’m ‘angry’ or upset by their behaviours specifically–I have a face that just happens, that hurts, I think anyway. It’s my moms fault LOL! I always go the face and that was that, I Straightened RIGHT UP! It’s kinda built in. I’m “UN” building it lol

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      • Still doing one step at a time out here too, I still get angry but usually its not because of the kids, mostly its because I have something else in mind and the kids being the kids that they are would trip my momentum. Needless to say I clench my teeth a lot :D

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    • LMAO! I Swore I too would’ve been militant as well! Funny because out if the family, everyone says I am the strictest–no ones kids want to come live with me! (I’m GOOD with that) LOL!

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      • Even if you are militant toddlers do what they want! lol I’ve tried all these things. I’ve been testing myself on the orange rhino thing this past week and did yell at my son yesterday after asking him nicely 10 times not to do something and he kept doing it. I stopped myself as soon as I yelled his name but it was already done. I also smacked his hand (mother of the year moment there). *sigh* I’m going to keep trying. I need to just commit to the challenge and be done with it i know.

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      • omg i JUST saw this i am sooo sorry i havent responded sooner! we will chat further about it post to post soon enough. today i am dedicated on bringing together all the blogger ladies i know myself, that are working on the orange rhino or any great parenting challenge. I will be mentioning you in a post and hope you will see it somehow? i dont know well yet, how to navigate around this site but im working on it!

        my suggestion now would be to head over to the Orange Rhino and READ…just read all the info there! there is much to be read (whenever you TAKE the ‘me time’ i know its hard to come by)! but further I would start reading every encouraging mommy blog especially here on wordpress ( i find the BEST REAL HELP HERE!) and keep notes around house or in a notebook to keep you focused on the positive, before we allow our own ‘behaviours’ that we regret–i am also working on little pieces of info posted around the house myself TODAY! I will upload photos! …sooon !!!
        keep your head up you are only human xo J9;)

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      • Oooo about that, just looked at your blog but can’t find an email or a contact me box. Is there a way I can message you privately? It’s about a guest post by you on my site. Thanks! :-)

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      • Hey, I have an email address for you and I will have to add one. I haven’t posted it before because of the spam. I just don’t want spammers searching through pages, bcuz they’re slimy like that LOL! For you: jeaniney25@hotmail.com I will be available next week. As you’ve noticed, this week and a half is the first I truly haven’t had time to post. I notice my weeks without posting, are no so good either. Its become part of my support system in its own special way. J9;)

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      • Hey! Thanks for that. I’ve copied the address if you want to delete the comment now so it’s not up for all the spammers to see!!! :-) I’ll write later. I know what you mean about this becoming a bit of a support system. I find the same. Hope you’ve been doing ok. I’ve missed your posts!!

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